Make the Most of Your Sex Life
Self-Assessment Quiz
(to be completed 1 week after reading the Rucker Model of Intimate Sex)
Indicate whether or not you have been mindful of each of the following important issues:
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| 1) Carved out time for yourself and time to be together with your partner |  |
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| 2) Connected by talking, touching, kissing, and eye contact (which promotes soul contact) | |
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| 3) Were willing to experience and handle intense emotions before, during, and after sex by staying fully in the present | |
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| 4) Had more physical contact and sensuousness (touching, caressing, massaging) | |
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| 5) Looked forward positively to sex to improve sexual interest | |
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| 6) If your interest declined with menopause, discussed this with your physician to consider balancing your hormones | |
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| 7) Did what works for you to get in the mood – discovered and used “erotic bridges” | |
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| 8) Handled sexual desire discrepancies proactively or addressed them through therapy | |
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| 9) Were more active during sex to help maintain your (and your partner’s) interest | |
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| 10) Stretched your comfort zones (used your imagination; did something differently) | |
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| 11) If you tense up when being touched, did you breathe, relax, and centre yourself? | |
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| 12) Experimented with sexual lubricants | |
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| 13) Communicated and gave each other feedback regarding what each of you likes sexually | |
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| 14) Made sure sex is physically comfortable (if it isn't, then see a specialist) | |
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| 15) Broadened your horizons by exploring erotic reading or vibrators | |
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| 16) Recalled peak erotic experiences and brought that energy to your current encounters | |
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